Denial

Another strange thing is why the masochist/slave, while in the presence of a beautiful woman in femdom videos, while he is erected, etc he does not... attack her. This is very strange thing. Ofcourse the mistress supposedly does not want or allow the slave to attack her sexually. But again, this is what the slave wants her to be and to do. Why the male masochist simply doesn't pay a prostitute to enjoy her and he pays a dominatrix to stand erected in front of her not being able to touch her? If this is not of a major clinical significance, what is more psychosexually abnormal? Sure, the masochist would say that this increases sexual arousal. Ofcourse it is arousing to watch. But obviously it is strange, why he chooses not to be allowed to touch? Wouldn't that increase his arousal more? Sure. Well, it is because he is forced to replay the script that his mind has obliged him. In this script, the love object must not be touched. He must feel denied by his love object. This will represent his fear of being denied. And this will cause erection (due to the normal sexual stimuli, eg the female body, etc) and satisfaction because the sexual arousal is achieved despite of the fear that is now represented in front of him. It is very strange that the masochist will not have an erection when he is with a normal girl or when he looks at normal pornography. This is because normal pornography triggers his inhibitions. Ofcourse femdom pornography visualizes his inhibitions so the masochist is not inhibited by his own mind, but by his love object, his mistress, and this makes his mind not being occupied by his internal inhibitions, but by the external inhibitions represented by his mistress. This mechanism leads to erection (given that there is sexual attraction, etc) because the externalized fears and threats are represented as mistress demands, or the femdom script/situation demands, so the masochist acts under a specific situation, with specific parts of his mind to work. He behaves as if he has lost his dignity, as if he has lost his masculinity, etc so he is free to erect, since there is no fear of the loss of these anymore.