Erotic humiliation

This is an essay as a response to many people who wonder how racial humiliation can be a fetish:

Definition:
Fear of being humiliated is a psychological force that the mind uses in order to prevent urges from coming out (and to make you act inside the norms of your morals, values, needs, society standards, or to prevent previous or future difficult situations, traumatic experiences that your urges may lead you to, etc).

Examples:
You fear of being humiliated and called whore, in order to supress your sexual urges to fuck around with hot guys. You want to get fucked, but society and your values are opposing, by instillating you a fear of humiliation.
You fear of being humiliated and called wanker, in order to supress your desire to wank (it is also quite common that you think you wank too much, while you do not wank too much ofcourse, plus there is nothing bad with wanking alot, but your own mind wants to somehow suppress your urges and it makes you think you wank too much!).

Why the mind wants to supress to urges?
Let's see the whole procedure: Wanting to wank is experienced as an intense desire and this intense desire makes the mind fear of it as something that it cannot control. That's why your mind is creating mechanisms to suppress/control your urges. Ofcourse this point of view has passed to the whole society and parents, school, etc often discourage you from masturbation (that's why wanker is an insult, because previous societies had hostile views towards masturbation, because it was experienced as a strong uncontrollable desire).

So black men you crave white sluts, must experience inner obstacles towards their desires for a white slut (often subconscious). These obstacles maybe racial (feeling shame you want white sluts and not hot sistas with big booties, etc) or prior traumatic experiences with white sluts (thus your mind needs to protect you) or because you feel inferior towards white sluts (racist views imposed by society) or because craving white sluts destroys your narcissistic views towards white sluts that you shouldn't crave them in order to be independed of them, or because craving a white slut may bring you close to white male friends that may humiliate you, etc so many reasons can be! but only one goal! to supress your urges! And how can your mind prevent you from craving white sluts? It will connect your desire for white sluts with a great fear, being humiliated. For some, being humiliated for their small penis may work, for others being humiliated for their color may work better, and so on. Thus, you fear of being humiliated and called nigger, in order to supress your lust to fuck a white slut. You want to fuck the while slut, but society and your values or your own mind are opposing, by instillating you a fear of humiliation.

Small penis humiliation may do nothing for someone (even if he is just average or even small) while racist humiliation may also do nothing for another. So this simply shows that humiliation is subjective and a creation of the mind and its influences, experiences, the way it developed through childhood, social environment, etc.

So, in reality, the fear of humiliation is created by the own mind to defend against the urges, and ofcourse the parents, society, culture, etc may teach one's mind to fear specific humiliations.

How do urges react:
1) Ofcourse the urges create in the mind their own defenses in order to defend themselves too: for example your other part of the mind, where the urges come from, may tell you that accepting being called nigger by a white slut, will prove that you love her too much, etc in order to intensify the urges (which ofcourse is false, because why simply not bring her flowers in order to prove that you love her so much? why your mind tells you to suffer what you fear in order to please her? because the sacrifice is bigger? sounds logical heh? NO! because your own mind wants to beat its obstacles! if you would ask her, she wouldn't even want to call you nigger, if she is normal and not a sick psycho bitch ofcourse). The purpose is not to prove your love, but to beat your inner obstacles that supress your urges! That's why a hot white chick may not excite you that much as a white psycho bitch that insults you! It's all about you and the battle inside your mind!

2) Another defensive mechanism is that your mind says you that if you endure the humiliation you fear you will get her attention, sounds logical heh? NO! why don't you go to the gym to impress her with your muscles? Because again it is about defeating your inner obstacles! You would surely get NEGATIVE attention if you come to her and tell her that you want to be her loser nigger slave! ha! And you know it, but again, it is just about what is happening in your own mind!

So your own mind (the part that urges come from) wants for you a sick pervert white slut... This is not masochistic, the mind will simply use her to overcome its inner obstacles! Why don't you crave a white submissive girl that loves black cock? (there are so many, heh) You will answer that she doesn't excite you that much as the psycho sick bitch! Because with the first girl, the conflict will be still there! So it is not that sick white sluts are hotter, it is because they serve you in order to overcome your own conflicts!

3) Enduring insults from a white sick slut creates in your mind the illusion that, fuck, you want her so much to put yourself into that shit! And this illusionaly seems to intensify the urges, the desire. Does this really adds some extra pleasure? Is it an innocent kink to spice things up? Well, that is totally FALSE, it serves basically an attemp to restore the intensity of the urges that were supressed by the fear of humiliation, so it is not a kink for extra pleasure, it is an illusion to restore a portion of the severed urges, thus it is a symptom of a problem, not a conscious method to increase desire etc. There is a need to intensify the urges by enduring nigger insults, more than what urges you have when you see the white slut and you get horny, not because you are so horny boy and you want more, but because you simply want to restore your urges. The insulting does not fully restore your urges, simply because enduring the humiliation is not pleasurable and it prevents total satisfaction (don't judge how you feel at that moment, because you don't know how you would feel if you had no inner conflicts! yeah baby! So your 100% of urges you have with a white hot girl are severed to 30% by your mind obstacles and enduring insults and thinking that you want her so much to do so will simply makes your urges rise to 50%. Ofcourse you don't want her so much, because if you watch her on the street, you wouldn't notice her at all! and you fucking know it! So it is all about your brain, you put your mind to believe an illusion in order to overcome your inner conflicts.

Being called nigger would be the same as being called asshole by a stranger (ok maybe little more), you would either ignore him or insult him or beat him. The same if you are called nigger on the street by the same sick white slut! You would beat her fuckin brains out! So this shows that it is a totally mental procedure.
continues...

How humiliation can be erotic?
The psychodynamics of this is that the person needs to alleviate his fear of humiliation. When he is actually humiliated, the fear of being humiliated disappears! Ok, now he is humiliated and he doesn't fear of being humiliated! So he is free to express his urges! When he wants to be humiliated in order to believe that his humiliating characteristic is true, the urges can be expressed without any supression! Ofcourse he does so, only in a controlled environment with a sick white slut, because the same person will react differently if humiliated by a stranger in real life and he will not become aroused.

So the reason why so many women enjoy been called whores, sluts, cumbackets, they want to get spanked, spat on their face, hair pulling etc in the bed, it is because only then, they make the fear of being humiliated disappear and express fully their sexuality, without any obstacles and they fuck like whores! yeah baby!

What is the solution to the problem of erotic humiliation?

So it is a pair of opposing forces, fear of humiliation (created by the own mind or instillated by society) and urges, an inner conflict that creates stress and needs relief. The relief comes when you solve the conflict.

Ofcourse resolving the inner conflict must be done through psychotherapy (self or pro): the mind must understand that urges are not a threat and gain sense of control, that the fear of humiliation is not valid and can be ignored (you understand this when you know who you are and not accepting other's opinions about who you are), treat past traumatic experiences, etc it is really up to the individual.

If you want not to do so, practise humiliation games with your boyfriend/girlfriend, nobody cares, and it may actually make you come closer and increase trust between you and your partner.

But! the "service" of professional pervert whores called doms, etc is NOT either therapeutical nor alleviating, they just perpetuate the problem by giving a momentary relief from the tension of the conflict, with a price to pay ofcourse, not only financially but psychological ofcourse, since in the long term the conflict is exaggerating. It is sad to see the whole fuckin web full of broke drug addict pervert failure wanna be ugly model sluts and so on, taking advantage of your inner conflicts either mentally or financially and especially for men who are of a weaker character. Bang a whore with few bucks, don't feed the lowlife sluts.