The fetish of the psychologically impotent: femdom

Other characteristics that femdom fetishists share are low self esteem, low sociability, shame, feeling addicted, feeling consumed, feeling unable and helpless. All these thoughts are ofcourse inhibiting sexual arousal. Their mind makes these thoughts in order to help them control their sexual urges for other reasons. So why would a masochist, or otherly refered as femdom fetishist, gets erected when called addicted, when called shameful, when called pathetic, etc? Wouldn't that inhibit more his sexuality? He actually chooses to go through that suffering in order to achieve sexual arousal. This, although it seems contradicting, it is very clear. The masochist is entagled into a conflict between sexual urges and sexual inhibitions in the form of feeling unworthy, shameful, disgusting, addicted, consumed, helpless, manipulated, etc. He cannot ignore neither of these opposing forces. He cannot reassure himself that he is not disgusting, addicted etc (his mind will try to find 'evidence' to remind him, for example his mind perceives his every erection as a disgusting thing or addicted or pervert, etc) and he cannot ignore his sexual urges, because he derives pleasure from them. He tries to balance by experiencing not too intense orgasms (under the effect of inhibitions) and by trying to limit his masturbation, arousal etc. Pornography of femdom brings an imbalance into this conflict. It urges him to express his sexual urges (by portraying the female partner as goddess, as irresistible, as demanding, as powerful etc and by portraying the male partner as weak, lustful, out of control, etc) and at the same time it fuels his inhibitions. This way, the inner conflict is externalized and the femdom fetishist, from the safety of his seat, he feels disgusted and aroused at the same time. He already felt this way before ofcourse. Now he has to choose, to masturbate or not to. He starts to masturbate to this stuff so he overcomes his fears. Ofcourse, this fuels his conflict so that eventually it hooks him.