Disgust

Disgust is a major element in most masochistic fantasies and activities. For example, urination into mouth is arousal for many masochists. Ofcourse the view of the female genitalia and the proximity to it, is arousal for most men. Even the urinating female genitalia can be still arousing to some men, if they simply ignore the urination and focus on the genitalia itself. So, at first place, it is deception for someone to believe he is urophiliac or masochist because he is aroused at the sight of the urinating female genitalia. However, masochistic way of thinking often uses specific arguements to justify the need of urination drinking etc. For example that urine is a product of the love object and 'must' be worshipped as the love object itself. Ofcourse that logic flaw is not true at all, it is not necessary to love waste in order to completely love a love object. It is interesting why masochistic mind generates such excuses in order to expose the masochist to an unpleasing and humiliating situation of urine drinking. The mechanism of putting himself into harsh situations in the name of his love for the love object is quite common in masochistic way of thinking. The masochist claims that this increases his love because it is love through self sacrifice, thus he achieves greater sexual arousal. The truth is that the greater arousal is from the self-defeating and humiliating act and not from the love expressed through sacrifice. Love can be expressed through sacrifice, but some external coincidence should create such situation in order to put someone his self into sacrificing, otherwise no one would deliberately sacrifice himself without reason, in contrast with the masochist. Moreover, if urinating wasn't considering disgusting or humiliating, the masochist wouldn't find it fascinating. His need for acts that defeat his ego and his superego ofcourse serve to defeat his obstacles about sexuality. Another thing to consider is that the masochist considers, at first hand, female genitalia as dirty since it urinates. He won't touch, lick, etc female genitalia because of his fear that it will urinate on him or that it will be dirty from previous urinatings. So his conflict creates fears that prevent his arousal. Exposing himself to what he fears, under controlled situation ofcourse (for example a woman he knows and trusts, that he knows she is not infected, that she will stop if he orders her to stop etc etc) his fear become obsolete (remember that fear is distress about possible future dangers) and so he can achieve erection, since he is already 'dirty' with urination. Another thing to consider, is that many urophiliacs claim that urinating fetish is about intimacy. Ofcourse genitalia is trully about intimacy, but urinating, since it is disgusting and dirty and dangerous and socially unacceptable, etc can successfully be omitted from the meaning of intimacy. However they choose to consider this as intimacy, simply because it serves their need to alleviate their conflicts and fears. Moreover, with their indulging to urophilia, they break society taboo's that they experience them too demanding and too prohibiting, so that engaging to urophilia gives them an imaginary and false feeling or freeing. As for forcing to do disgusting things that is common in femdom masochism, it surely serves the same principle. The masochist is who he orders the dominatrix to force him do so and the forcing is not about proving his love, his submission, etc, but it symbolizes his overcoming of his ego and superego that pose obstacles to his sexuality. It is clear that disgust associated with fetishes and femdom masochism is basically the express of the inner conflict that superego's obstacles create.