Focus

As already made clear, the goal of the masochist is not sexual satisfaction, is not suffering, is not humiliation, it is overcoming the fears, by retaining an erection, by focusing on his love object.

Why does a masochist need to have a goddess, instead of a just hot beautiful woman? Hot women are a no no for him, for various reasons (low self esteem, small penis etc). Moreover hot women are what his inhibitions talk about. That's why he need to create another kind of woman, a mistress, that will trick his mind to overcome his inhibitions. He deliberately places himself into stressful and fearful situations for another reason as well: in order to distract his mind from its normal state. The whole scenario he builds (slave, student, patient, prisoner, etc) makes his mind not to think about normal stuff. Thus it increases his focus to his love object.

So, it is not what masochists say about themselves, that they are thrilled by the fact that they are at the mercy of their mistress, it is that this situation simply helps them focus. Maybe attention deficiency disorder is linked to masochism. Maybe intellectual people (especially those forced by their parents and not like themselves to read) tend to be more masochistic because of their need to focus or their habit to focus.

It is also often mentioned that powerful businessmen, lawyers, CEOs etc are often masochists. This is not because they want some times to leave the control to a woman because they want to change, as cheap prostitutes called themselves dominatrixes claim. It is because for them sex is often considered a threat, because it distracts them from their work that needs high focus, because their social status makes them feel superior and wanting a woman is perceived by them as a weakness, etc. Also it is because they were forced to study textbooks and do other things that they did not want to, but they were told that although disgusting and painful, they will be beneficial and rewarding. That reminds alot the femdom video scripts, where the slave is forced to do something dreadful against his will in order to be rewarded.

Ofcourse, human reward system is a healthy mechanism, but it is used by masochist as an excuse to justify their masochistic acts. It is reward to go to the gym, have a nice body, in order to find hotter women, but it is not reward to lick shoes in order to gain your right to ejaculate.