Inhibition

From femdom video descriptions, one can clearly notice the attack to manhood, self esteem, power of the self, etc. Why would one get attacked about his manhood, self esteem etc? And how this could cause sexual arousal? Well, probably because his perception of power, manhood, etc are that these values prevent him from sex. But, how can one's manhood prevent him from sex? Although, it sounds contradicting, it must be that he perceives himself less powerful when he experiences sexual signals from a woman. In order to protect his power feeling, he utilizes his manhood and his minds tells him that he is a strong man and he can control himself and not crave that woman or not express sexual actions towards that woman. This is how manhood or pride or power etc is entagled with sexuality. So attacking his manhood she helps him get rid of an obstacle to sex. That's why he craves to be dressed like a woman, for example. So when he is into such situation, it is so easy for him to experience his sexuality without inhibitions. Although these posts don't or may not apply to female masochists, it works the same as when a woman gets aroused when she is called a slut. And the more she fears of being called a slut, the more she gets angry when she is called a slut in real life (outside the bedroom) and the more she craves to be called a slut in the bedroom. It is because she utilizes her pride, her dignity, her sexual purity, etc, she gives too much importance to them, in order to supress her sexual urges. So it is a need for her to be called a slut in order to get off. Otherwise, the obstacle is there and prevents her from getting off. So it is a major mistake to try to supress sexual urges by utilizing irrelevant virtues. If a masochist uses his virtue of purity (he feels clean if not touching others, body liquids, etc) to prevent him from sex (he disgusts sex) he may develop a craving for being forced to do disgusting things in order to get aroused. So femdom is actually beating his own obstacles that prevent him from arousal. Ofcourse there is a difference: being called a sissy by a stranger man does not cause arousal, but anger and depression, in contrast with being called a sissy from his mistress or any hot woman, which causes arousal and submission. This is because he must feel sexual attraction to the person that degrades him in order that degradation will trigger arousal. If he had a healthy sexuality and he didn't try to suppress his sexual urges, but experience them in a healthy manner, with a healthy masturbation, with a healthy relationship, etc, he wouldn't perceive self esteem reduction as a sexual stimuli. Ofcourse there are other reasons that he utilizes virtues etc to suppress his sexuality. For example if he is already depressive, his disease prevent him from sex, so even though he doesn't deliberately suppress his urges, his disease does so, by making him think that he is not worthy for a woman, etc. The words worthy, reward, etc are very common in femdom video scripts. This may indicate a tendency for masochism of people that view their sexuality (or life in general) in terms of rewards, worthiness, etc. That's why businessmen and scientists, who endure discomfort (by reading books hard to understand, memorize, etc) in order to get a reward (success in exams, financial gains, better position in work etc). They are often judge people by their worthiness (money, looks, education, position, etc) and it is more easy for them to compare themselves with a superior person and feel unworthy. How making them feel unworthy is linked with sexual arousal, is logical if feeling worthy prevents their sexuality. And how can feeling worthy prohibits their sexuality? Well, there are various mechanisms, for example feeling too much worthy, makes them consider women inferior and they may be snob to them, they think why would a worthy man express interest to them, etc. So the main core of masochism and femdom is to reduce obstacles of sexuality in order to cause arousal. But how can reducing obstables towards sexuality actually trigger sexuality? It is because sexuality is always supressed and it finds an occasion to express itself. But also there is a subconscious thinking, where the mind tells the masochist that he is a sissy, he is a slut, he is a wanker, etc and thus the mind triggers his own erection. Because the mind supposes a conclusion after the whole femdom scene/activity, etc. The mind, first, actually believes and incorporates the femdom script (eg he accepts he is going to be humiliated) and the mind subconsciously draws a conclusion: now that he is humiliated he is helpless to inhibit his craving for the love object, he is surrendered, he has no other ways to defend against his love object. For most masochists ofcourse there is a clear way thinking that triggers erection, they want to serve, etc and that is enough. Their way of thinking is too much distorted and their whole values and view of life etc is totally problematic.